How to be more confident with the law of assumption

How do you be confident law of assumption style? Maybe you have a party coming up and you want to walk in feeling great. Or maybe you just want to stop shrinking in group chats and meetings.

The good news is that confidence is not a trait some people are born with and others are not. It is a story, and you can choose a new one. This post shows how.

Confidence is a story you hold

Confidence feels like a feeling, but underneath it is an assumption. It is what you accept as true about yourself in a room.

Confident people are not thinking "I hope they like me." They are assuming "of course they like me." That quiet assumption shows up in how they talk, how they sit and how they laugh.

So you do not need to wait to feel confident. You can choose the assumption first, and let the feeling catch up. Just like the 3D catches up with your story, your feelings catch up too.

Think of a new pair of shoes. The first day they feel a little stiff. You keep wearing them, and one morning you put them on without noticing. A new confident story works the same way. Wear it often and it starts to fit.

Where low confidence comes from

Low confidence is not a flaw. It is an old story that got a lot of repeats.

Maybe you heard it, or picked it up somewhere, or just said it to yourself so many times that it stuck:

• I am awkward.
• People do not notice me.
• I always say the wrong thing.
• I am not the kind of person who feels at ease.

None of these are facts. They are lines on repeat. And what you repeat is what your mind takes as true.

If you have ever wondered why you are nothing like the person you picture in your head, this is why. The old lines are louder for now. You just give the new ones more airtime. If it helps to see the difference between how you see yourself and how you feel about yourself, self concept vs self esteem explains it.

Confidence is not a trait you are born with. It is a story you choose.

How to be confident with the law of assumption

Here is a simple path:

1. Choose your confident self. How do they walk into a room? How do they reply to a message? Picture it clearly.
2. Write two or three lines. I am at ease everywhere. People love being around me. I always know what to say.
3. Say them in ordinary moments. In the shower, on the stairs, while the kettle boils.
4. Think from it. When you head into a room in your mind, go in as the confident self. That is living in the end, thinking from it as already done.
5. Let old lines pass. When "I am awkward" pops up, just say, "that was the old story."

You do not have to fake anything. You are just choosing what to assume about yourself, on purpose.

For a calm guide through every part of this, the Confidence 101 course has short lessons.

Lines for confident days

Here are a few lines to try. Pick the ones that sound like you:

• I am relaxed and at ease.
• People love talking to me.
• I always know what to say.
• I belong in every room I walk into.
• I am magnetic, and people are drawn to me.

If that last one made you smile, how to feel magnetic goes deeper on it. And if you want even more lines, confidence affirmations has a long list.

Say them flat if you like. Repetition does the work, not the feeling.

Before a big moment

A party, a date, a first day, a big meeting. Here is a little inner routine for the night before:

1. Lie in bed and picture the moment going beautifully.
2. See yourself laughing, talking easily, feeling light.
3. Hear someone say, "that was so fun, you were great."
4. Fall asleep in that scene.

On the day, if nerves show up, that is fine. Nerves are just a feeling. Your story stays the same. Say one line to yourself, like "I am at ease here," and carry on.

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